Child Safety Tips

The following information was taken from Child Protection, a publication of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. For more tips and downloadable brochures, please visit their publications page at More Publications. The NCMEC also hosts an excellent website resource on internet safety for all ages. Visit the site at www.Netsmartz.org.

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As a society, our efforts to prevent crimes committed against children have not kept pace with the increasing vulnerability of our children. After hearing the tragic stories about abducted or exploited children, most parents and guardians are surprised to learn many crimes committed against children can be prevented. This brochure is about child protection.

The most important key to child safety is effective communication with your child. Remember, children who do not feel they are listened to or who do not think their needs are met in the home are more vulnerable to abduction or exploitation. The first step you should take is to establish an atmosphere in the home in which your child feels truly comfortable in discussing sensitive matters and relating experiences in which someone may have approached the child in an inappropriate manner or way that made the child feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused. The simple truth is children are often too afraid or confused to report their experiences and fears.

Unfortunately the rising awareness of crimes committed against children has left many families with a real sense of fear. You and your child need to be careful and aware, but you do not need to be afraid. Talk to your child in a calm and reassuring manner, being careful not to discuss the frightening details of what might happen to a child who does not follow the safety guidelines.

The Exploiter or Abductor: Not a "Stranger"

“Stay away from strangers” is a popular warning to children to prevent abduction or exploitation. Unfortunately, however, many children are abducted or exploited by people who have some type of familiarity with them but who may or may not be known to the child’s parents or guardians.

The term stranger suggests a concept children do not understand and is one that ignores what we do know about the people who commit crimes against children. Children may believe they should only be aware of individuals who have an unusual or slovenly appearance. Instead, it is more appropriate to teach children to be on the lookout for certain kinds of situations or actions rather than certain kinds of individuals.

Children can be raised to be polite and friendly, but it is okay for them to be suspicious of any adult asking for assistance. Children help other children, but there is no need for them to be assisting adults, nor should adults request assistance from children. Children should not be asked to touch anyone in the areas of their body that would be covered by a bathing suit or allow anyone to touch them in those areas.

Often exploiters or abductors initiate a seemingly innocent contact with the victim. They may try to get to know the children and befriend them. They use subtle approaches that both parents or guardians and children should be aware of. Children should learn to stay away from individuals in vehicles, and they should know it is okay to say no — even to an adult. Since children are often reared to respect adult authority and never be a tattletale, parents and guardians should explain why the child’s personal safety is more important than being polite. Children should also be taught to tell a trusted adult and there will always be someone who can help them.

Remember, a clear, calm, and reassuring message about situations and actions to lookout for is easier for a child to understand than a particular profile or image of a “stranger.”

What You Can Do to Prevent Child Abduction and Exploitation:

• Know where your children are at all times. Be familiar with their friends and daily activities.

• Be sensitive to changes in your children's behavior; they are a signal you should sit down and talk to your children about what caused the changes.

• Be alert to a teenager or adult who is paying an unusual amount of attention to your children or giving them inappropriate or expensive gifts.

• Teach your children to trust their own feelings, and assure them they have the right to say no to what they sense is wrong.

• Listen carefully to your children's fears, and be supportive in all your discussions with them.

• Teach your children that no one should approach or touch them in a way that makes them feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused. If someone does, they should immediately tell you.

• Be diligent about babysitters and any other individuals who have custody of your children. Obtain references from people you trust and see if you can access background screening information about these individuals. Many states provide access to sex-offender registries and criminal histories.

Basic Rules of Safety for Children

• As soon as your children can articulate a sentence, they can begin the process of learning how to protect themselves against abduction and exploitation. Children should be taught:

• If you are in a public place, and you get separated from your parents or guardians, don't wander around looking for them. Go to a uniformed law-enforcement or security officer, store salesperson or person in the information booth with a nametag, or a mother with children, and quickly tell the person you have lost your family and need help finding them.

• You should not get into a vehicle or go anywhere with any person unless your parents or guardians have specifically told you it is okay to do so on that day.

• If someone follows you in a vehicle, stay away from him or her and turn around and go in the opposite direction. You should not get close to any vehicle, unless your parent, guardian, or a trusted adult accompanies you. If someone is following you on foot, run away as fast as you can and tell a trusted adult what happened.

• Grownups and others who need help should not be asking children for help, they should be asking older people.

• No one should be asking you for directions, asking you for help looking for something like a "lost puppy," or telling you your mother or father is in trouble and he or she will take you to them.

• If someone tries to take you somewhere, quickly get away from him or her and yell or scream. "This man (woman) is trying to take me away!" or "This person is not my father (mother)." If someone tries to grab you, make a scene and make every effort to get away by kicking, screaming, and resisting.

• You should try to take a friend with you, and never go places alone.

• Always ask your parents' or guardians' permission to leave the yard or play area or go into someone's home.

• Never hitchhike. Don't ride home with anyone unless your parents or guardians have told you it is okay to do so on that day.

• If someone wants to take your picture, tell him or her no and tell your parents, guardians, or other trusted adults.

• No one should ever touch you in the parts of the body that would be covered by a bathing suit, nor should you touch anyone else in those areas. Your body is special and private.

• You can be assertive, and you have the right to say no to someone who tries to take you somewhere; touch you; or make you feel scared, uncomfortable or confused in any way.